Life issues such as financial problem that is growing, prolonged illness, family concerns or maybe you have a teenager in the family who’s in trouble at school. These type of problems cause a great deal of stress and anxiety and require new and different strategies.
One might not want their beautiful black hair to turn white or their skin colour to change and deteriorate health as over-stressing leads to various health problems.
If you’re completely overwhelmed, sit down and do a little planning. There’s nothing like a plan of action to help you get back on track. Before addressing problems, take control of your thought processes.
Counselor Sherry says, “If you can visualize your steps, you’re going to be a lot better off. I’ve been working with a close cousin, who has been suicidal. She tells certain methods of coaching are working for her.”
Sherry has coached many families, including military families, through many overwhelming issues. She’s found that stress grows when you feel there’s nothing you can do.
Here are some of Sherry’s advice to create a plan to reduce anxiety:
Never overlook small changes to help a problem. For example, three or four improvements in your spending habits will add up.
Make time to focus on fixing the problems. Set a time each week, such as Saturday afternoon, to figure out what you’ll change in the coming week.
Balance pain with healthy activities you can control. For example, ask a friend to join you for lunch, if you’re going to face your child’s irate guidance counselor the same afternoon.
This picture is used for illustrative purpose.
Don’t let your thoughts run wild. Write down what’s bugging you and ask yourself what options you really do have to correct things.
Volunteer of find another way to be active, which creates a support and gives you a break from everyday stress.
“I thought I was going to lose my business and my house,” says Bill, Sherry’s patient.
“What really helped me cope was pretending I was helping someone else. I said to myself, ‘What would I advise someone else to do?”
He explained that he decided to be honest with his wife. His wife, cool-headed by nature. Tell me what you think could change your business worries?”
Bill figured out that having a good sales manager would be key. His sales manager, who quit last year due to a family illness, had kept Bill’s business in good shape.
“My wife helped me see that if I could find such a replacement person, I’d be OK,” says Bill. “Her brother, also a businessman, helped me hunt with a fabulous sales manager in less than a week.”
Having several overwhelming struggles at once can boggle the mind. If you’re in such a situation, it pays to immediately find some people to help.
For example, if you’ve got a major family illness going on, talk to people who’ve gone through the same challenge. They can likely give you some pointers, so you’re not struggling with too many variable factors.
The minute you can find a friend, mentor, or paid consultant to help you, you will have a new influx of knowledge to address an illness, financial setback, or family problem.
Keep in mind that stress can be defined this way: It’s anything that makes you feel out of control. Reversing that feeling will keep you calmer and in charge of your life.